A loaded question contains an assumption that will lead to a definite conclusion, and if the assumption is wrong then the conclusion will also be. In law this is known as a “wife-beater ” question from “Do you still beat your wife? “. There are different ways that this fallacy can exist in isolated communities. For example, a line of reasoning could be, “Perhaps if I lowered my dating standards I could find someone that would accept me? “. Now this seems reasonable, but there might be an assumption there, that there is something wrong with you in the first place (although it could be reasonable if you have very high dating standards).
Another statement could be, “I’ll never find someone who can make me happy “, but really, the assumption here is that another person can make you happy, they could, but they could make you unhappy also.
Perhaps someone could listen to the usual advice that many lonely people get, “Why don’t you pay attention to hygiene, work out, smile more”, and there are different assumptions here. One is that there is a category of available partners (let’s say single women for the sake of argument) and each one wants someone ripped (there is no sub-category, for example, a woman with some perceived flaw who feels more comfortable with an imperfect partner she can more easily consider an equal). The other assumption is that if you’re single, you must be non-muscular and dirty (which in the cold light of reasoning, is clearly preposterous).